Written by Sonny P Shitaa
Wednesday, 20 June 2012 22:36
Parents have failed to give guidance to their sons and daughters. The world is changing and individuals are not sure of what they really want in life. What are actually the driving factors for men to become vampires on their woman and why Namibian women are victims of the whole love game in our country?
I will try to outline a few real factors why the killing of women in our country is on the increase every day. A number of men in Namibia are playing the role of husbands, while they know for sure that they are just boyfriend & girlfriend (not married). The same applies to our women playing a role of wives, while they surely know it’s just an ordinary relationship.
A lot of men are giving unlimited support to their girlfriends in the hope that maybe they will not leave them, but that is not a guarantee in real life. What I want our men to know is that there is a difference between a girlfriend and a wife. With a girlfriend you must always have limits in whatever you do and with a wife you give the unlimited support. But if you feel your girlfriend is the one you want to stand for, then make her your wife and give her unlimited support.
Love is not a guarantee; any time you can break-up, so once you get into a relationship you must prepare for the day of breaking up and whatever you put in a relationship it must not be with the intention of buying love “as love doesn’t cost a thing”.
Women have to stop looking up to men to do everything for them, but have to stand up and work hard to get what they want, because they are the ones who know what they really need. Man’s dependence on woman is a disease which needs intervention. Things have to change and women must know that men respect a woman who stands her ground. If they have to see each other it will be for love and nothing else.
Statistics have proven that 95% of women who are killed in our country involved in ordinary relationships (boyfriend & girlfriend), 5% of whom are married women. So if a woman knows she is not in love with a man she must not try to pretend just for the sake of what she will get from the guy, because that is risking her life and her value as a woman.
So fellow Namibian men it’s time we learn to understand and accept when a woman ends a relationship, we must stop thinking that if you give a woman whatever you give her she will stay with you. Anything you give to your lovely woman, give it out of love not for other intentions.